Talking to Your Parents About Assisted Living

how to talk to your parent about assisted living options

Moving a parent or loved one out of their family home into assisted living brings with it a number of challenges – not the least of which is having the initial conversation to get the ball rolling.  Many seniors feel that moving to a care facility forces them to give up their independence and freedom, and this can lead to some heated discussions.  Getting parents to move to assisted living is not a simple process, but with a little bit of planning, you can help to make it an easier transition for everyone involved.

    1. Start Early.  Don’t wait until your parent has declined to the point where they need constant care before you have the talk.  Make it an open discussion for as long as possible before the need arises.  Speak to your loved ones about friends and family who have made the move to assisted living, and who have enjoyed its many benefits.  Ask questions about what they would want if it ever became necessary to help them choose a home.  Getting the topic out there in a non-confrontational way will help to ease tensions when it does come time to address the issue.
    2. Be Prepared. It’s important to approach the conversation armed with detailed information and options.  There are so many levels of care available, and location and financial factors to consider.  Do your research so you can provide accurate details and are able to make suggestions based on your family member’s needs.
    3. Involve them in the Process.  Finding assisted living for parents is not a job for adult children alone.  It is imperative to involve seniors in their own care so that they do not lose their sense of control and value.  Moving out of one’s home is an enormous change that can seem overwhelming.  Being part of the selection process can help to ease insecurities and make it easier for aged parents to accept – and even embrace – a new way of life.
    4. Have Empathy. Remember that while moving your family member to an assisted living community may be a clear choice for you, they may need some time to adjust to the idea.  Listen with a compassionate ear about their concerns and worries, and help them to understand that you are suggesting this choice for their own health and well-being. Outline the reasons you think it’s best that they make this change, and remind them that you will still be around to see them just as frequently as ever. Many seniors have a fear of being “put to pasture” in a nursing home, when that couldn’t be any further from the truth. Reassure them that they will likely have more social activity, less household responsibility and access to better health care than they currently enjoy. Discuss the many options for family visits and the accessibility of recreational activities that they may like.
    5. Get Help.  Professional placement services are a must when moving a loved one to assisted living.  Eliminate  the need to visit dozens of facilities in your area by obtaining a no cost assessment, advice and recommendations from professionals who are connected to a network of local care providers and who are familiar with all of the options available to you. There are many care setting environments to consider:
      • Retirement Communities
      • Care Homes
      • In Home Care
      • Respite Care

    Knowing which environment will best suit the needs and budget for your loved one can go a long way towards a successful move into care.

  1. If it’s time to consider a change for a senior in your life, call the experts at First Choice Senior Placement to discuss the many options available in your community. We can help simplify the process and ensure you find the right fit for your family.

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